jumpingjacktrash:

50fuckedupshades:

liferuining-soulsnatcher:

lucid-dancing:

jehovahhthickness:

I don’t know why y'all scared of having arguments, especially with people you give a fuck about.

Not every argument is toxic, leads to a screaming match or turns physical.

Disagreements happen all the time and if something bothers you, you shouldn’t sweep it under the rug.

Tbh if you can’t work through disagreements, differing opinions, and share what bothers you then you shouldn’t be with them

This is something I really need to work on. It’s really problematic that I have an anxiety attack just thinking about bringing up a problem that I have, even minor shit.

Remember that you should never argue when you’re on the phone(text/call). Wait until you’re face to face. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that we all misinterpret things which makes everything worse. When you’re having a discussion that involves different opinions and views, also remember to keep your face & body relaxed. Body language counts in these scenarios as well.

i very much disagree about not arguing in text. for a lot of people who have trouble with confrontation, text is much easier. you have a record of what you said, you can take a moment to compose yourself before replying, and you won’t be overreacting to tone or body language. only ever arguing face to face is a really bad idea, actually.

even when you’re very emotionally involved in the issue – especially then – it’s okay to set the topic aside until you’re calmer. don’t convince yourself ‘the moment has passed, it’s too late to bring that up.’ it’s honestly better to talk about it when it’s not so urgent.

never fight in the car. arguing is ok, if you’re the type who can debate and banter and not get super upset. but a fight in the car is a really really bad idea, because you’re both trapped, and nobody can walk away and cool off.

don’t imply, and don’t infer. say exactly what you mean, and tell your partner that you expect the same from them. so much of the badness of relationship fights comes from assuming each other’s motives and meanings instead of listening to what’s actually being said.